The Costs of Quitting

Some people know the costs of quitting. Others don’t. Overachieving and tenacious people wouldn’t normally know. That’s good, and somehow it’s not because the one who usually soars higher, falls harder.

Quitting. It sounds horrible doesn’t it? It’s connected with weakness, cowardice, and failure. Everybody wants to be strong, brave and successful. It’s only normal right?

What if we rephrase that word, turn it into “letting go” instead of calling it as “quitting”? It sounds a lot better, healthier, and more hopeful, because when you let go it means you can hold on to better things now that your hands are empty.

I’m not encouraging people to quit. No, I’m just informing what it’s like to give up and stop. It’s always a personal decision, giving up or holding on.

Contrary to popular belief, quitting also takes strength. Quitting sometimes doesn’t mean you’re weak, sometimes you’re just too strong but you recognized it’s just something not for you. It can be hard to quit something you love but you know it would be better to let go. It’s good to be careful though, because people would often confuse something as a thing not for them instead of just being tired. “Rest but don’t quit”. It’s true. That saying is kind of incomplete, “rest but don’t quit and if you return and you’re still tired, maybe it’s time to move on or to make a new strategy”. It differs from person to person but trusting your instincts is good. They’re there for a reason.

Once you quit something for whatever reason, you’ll find yourself feeling relieved. The stress, pressure, burden, or whatever it is that was bothering you in relation to the thing you quit will lessen or disappear, depending on the circumstances. It’s a refreshing feeling. It’s a mix of being happy and peaceful, with nothing to bother you much anymore. Yes, no more stress! It’s gone! Woohoo. (As if. Stress comes a lot from different things). Now how long that feeling will stay depends on the reason why a person started and the reason why he or she stopped. Starting for the right reason and stopping for the wrong one often makes life difficult. After sometime, a person will realize the gravity of the action that was taken. If quitting was a wrong move, then regrets will sink in. Sometime it leaves a bitter feeling. If quitting was a good move, then a lesson about learning when to fight and when to step back is learned. Sometimes it makes you feel wise. The two aren’t mutually exclusive by the way, they can happen at the same time. So if you think about it, there really is no wrong or right move.

When you quit, you might become more aware and more appreciative of what it’s like to keep on fighting, because you already know what it’s like to quit. Whether it has left a bitter feeling or not, it somehow would keep you on fighting when you know in your heart something is worth it. When you already know what it’s like to let an opportunity pass, when you’ve already felt the regret and pain of failure, you’d know the sweetness of trying your best and not care much for the result, because the battle was an end in itself. It’ll be great and dandy when you succeed of course but you did your best, no matter what others tell you or how you feel, you did your best if you gave it your all. Unlike the other times when you gave up and never knew what could have been, you fought till the very end; that in itself should bring some kind of satisfaction and achievement.

Not everything is in our control, sometimes things just happen because of God’s plans, not ours.

So quit if you want to quit. Nobody is stopping you but yourself. The costs of quitting are quite high but you don’t get nothing out of it. There’s always something. You lose some, you gain some. Whether you quit or you fight, in the end if it’s not for you then it won’t be for you. So if we got nothing better to do, then let’s fight ’till the end I say, until we know for sure that letting go is better than holding on.

We don’t know what the future holds with certainty, only God knows.┬áSo we pray and we fight. We pray that we may be guided and make the right decisions, and we fight for the thing we decided to stick with.

When you know the costs of quitting, you’ll know the true value of fighting.